In Search of the “Jeem” – No. 14 by Dr. Mohammad Reza Zaeiri

✍️ By: Dr. Mohammad Reza ZAEIRI,

Iranians Fear the Door!

I frequently read books, and among the vast array of topics, I have always had a particular preference for travel literature. These works captivate me not only because they provide the pleasure of encountering “the other” through the author’s perspective, but also because they function as a mirror in which a foreigner reflects his impressions, emotions, and viewpoints about a society that is unfamiliar and a culture that differs from his own.

Within such books, what fascinates me most are the sections that highlight cultural differences—the subtle distinctions between societies that often lead to misunderstandings and create significant barriers to communication and intercultural connection.

For instance, a gesture considered respectful in one society—such as removing one’s hat—might be perceived in another as a breach of etiquette.

Or consider a particular scenario in sun-drenched Algeria: if you wish to honor someone while walking together in the height of summer, you might take care to place them in the shade so they are comfortable and unscathed by the heat. Conversely, in Northern Europe, where sunlight is scarce, one might place the honored guest in the sun while remaining oneself in the shade, as a subtle gesture of generosity or influence.

Understanding such cultural nuances allows one to grasp much of the inevitable variation and difference between peoples—a reflection, perhaps, of the Quranic principle: “And We made you into peoples and tribes so that you may know one another” (49:13).

Social etiquette, customs, and traditions differ widely across societies and are the product of hundreds—if not thousands—of years of accumulated experience.

In Iran, for example, people are meticulous in formalities and introductions, a practice commonly referred to as ta’arof. It is customary to offer precedence to elders upon entering or leaving gatherings. Sometimes, these rituals appear excessively elaborate: one might observe two individuals exchanging polite gestures for an extended period, each insisting that the other go first. A foreign visitor, unable to grasp the custom, once remarked humorously that “Iranians are afraid of the door”—for when they finally approach it, each one shoves the other forward!

I also encountered another tourist’s anecdote about visiting Iranian mosques. He observed that the imams simply stood opposite the congregants, shouting takbir (the phrase “Allahu Akbar” [Allah is the Greatest]). Unbeknownst to him, the young man proclaiming takbir—called the mukabbir (the announcer who guides worshippers)—guides the worshippers audibly, prompting them to follow the imam’s motions during prayer, a practice that has persisted in certain mosques since the era before electronic loudspeakers were introduced.

Similarly, one custom that often surprises foreigners is that food offered during visits is typically not eaten until formally requested by the guest—and this request may be repeated multiple times (ta’arof [ritual of polite insistence]). As a result, many visits conclude without sampling the offerings, and one may leave the host’s home having neither tasted fruit nor sweets.

Let me conclude this piece with a humorous anecdote about ta’arof in Iran. A woman was at the end of her pregnancy but did not deliver for several days. Finally, she underwent an ultrasound, revealing that she was carrying twins. The first twin appeared to be waiting for the second to exit first, saying: “After you!” To which the second replied: “No, you go first!”

Endnotes

1. Hamshahri (in Persian: همشهری) is a major Iranian daily newspaper founded in 1990. The name means “fellow citizen” or “co-dweller” in Persian. It is the largest Persian-language newspaper in the world.

2. Jeem (ج) is the fifth letter of the Arabic alphabet and holds the phonetic value of the “j” sound in English. In this context, it symbolizes the moral and symbolic bridge between the author’s identity and his host country, Algeria.

3. Zaeiri (الزائري) is the author’s surname. When the letter “Jeem” (ج) is added, it becomes Jazaeiri (الجزائري), meaning “Algerian” in Arabic. This clever linguistic play underpins the philosophical theme of identity and belonging that permeates the text.

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🏆 𝓐𝔀𝓪𝓻𝓭𝓮𝓭 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓟𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓲𝓭𝓮𝓷𝓽 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓡𝓮𝓹𝓾𝓫𝓵𝓲𝓬’𝓼 𝓟𝓻𝓲𝔃𝓮 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓟𝓻𝓸𝓯𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓸𝓷𝓪𝓵 𝓙𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓼𝓽 𝓲𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓔𝓵𝓮𝓬𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓷𝓲𝓬 𝓟𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓰𝓸𝓻𝔂 (🗓 𝓞𝓬𝓽𝓸𝓫𝓮𝓻 22, 2022), 𝓓𝔃𝓪𝓲𝓻 𝓣𝓾𝓫𝓮 𝓲𝓼 𝔀𝓲𝓭𝓮𝓵𝔂 𝓻𝓮𝓬𝓸𝓰𝓷𝓲𝔃𝓮𝓭 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓲𝓽𝓼 𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓪𝓵 𝓮𝔁𝓬𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓰𝓻𝓲𝓽𝔂.

📱 𝓜𝓪𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓓𝓲𝓰𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓵 𝓡𝓮𝓪𝓬𝓱:
🔴 600,000+ 𝓨𝓸𝓾𝓣𝓾𝓫𝓮 𝓼𝓾𝓫𝓼𝓬𝓻𝓲𝓫𝓮𝓻𝓼
🔵 6 𝓶𝓲𝓵𝓵𝓲𝓸𝓷+ 𝓯𝓸𝓵𝓵𝓸𝔀𝓮𝓻𝓼 𝓪𝓬𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓼 𝓕𝓪𝓬𝓮𝓫𝓸𝓸𝓴 𝓹𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓼
📸 70,000+ 𝓘𝓷𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓶 𝓯𝓸𝓵𝓵𝓸𝔀𝓮𝓻𝓼

🎥 𝓞𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓯𝓻𝓸𝓶 𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓮-𝓸𝓯-𝓽𝓱𝓮-𝓪𝓻𝓽 𝓼𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓲𝓸𝓼, 𝓓𝔃𝓪𝓲𝓻 𝓣𝓾𝓫𝓮 𝓫𝓻𝓸𝓪𝓭𝓬𝓪𝓼𝓽𝓼 𝓻𝓲𝓬𝓱 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓭𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓮 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓰, 𝓲𝓷𝓬𝓵𝓾𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰:
🗞 𝓝𝓮𝔀𝓼 | ⚽ 𝓢𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓼 | 🎭 𝓔𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓷𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽 | 🕌 𝓡𝓮𝓵𝓲𝓰𝓲𝓸𝓷 | 🎨 𝓒𝓾𝓵𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓮

🗣️ 𝓕𝓮𝓪𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓲𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓬𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓴 𝓼𝓱𝓸𝔀𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓮𝔁𝓬𝓵𝓾𝓼𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓲𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓿𝓲𝓮𝔀𝓼 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓮𝓷𝓽 𝓯𝓲𝓰𝓾𝓻𝓮𝓼 𝓯𝓻𝓸𝓶 𝓹𝓸𝓵𝓲𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓼, 𝓫𝓾𝓼𝓲𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓼, 𝓪𝓻𝓽𝓼, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓶𝓸𝓻𝓮, 𝓓𝔃𝓪𝓲𝓻 𝓣𝓾𝓫𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝓻𝓿𝓮𝓼 𝓪𝓼 𝓪 𝓴𝓮𝔂 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓽𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓹𝓾𝓫𝓵𝓲𝓬 𝓭𝓲𝓼𝓬𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓼𝓮 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓬𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓬 𝓮𝓷𝓰𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽.

📰 𝓘𝓽𝓼 𝓹𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓽 𝓼𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓼 𝓭𝓪𝓲𝓵𝔂, “𝓓𝔃𝓪𝓲𝓻 𝓢𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓽,” 𝓮𝓷𝓳𝓸𝔂𝓼 𝓸𝓿𝓮𝓻 50,000 𝓭𝓪𝓲𝓵𝔂 𝓭𝓸𝔀𝓷𝓵𝓸𝓪𝓭𝓼 𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓸𝓯𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓵 𝔀𝓮𝓫𝓼𝓲𝓽𝓮—𝓯𝓾𝓻𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻 𝓬𝓮𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓽𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶’𝓼 𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓪 𝓵𝓮𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓱𝓲𝓹.

🎖️ 𝓗𝓸𝓷𝓸𝓻𝓮𝓭 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓜𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓪 𝓛𝓮𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓱𝓲𝓹 𝓐𝔀𝓪𝓻𝓭 𝓫𝔂 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓮𝓻 𝓜𝓲𝓷𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓻 𝓸𝓯 𝓒𝓸𝓶𝓶𝓾𝓷𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷, 𝓜𝓸𝓱𝓪𝓶𝓮𝓭 𝓛𝓪â𝓰𝓪𝓫, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓬𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓫𝓻𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓭 𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓗𝓲𝓵𝓪𝓵𝓼 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓣𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓿𝓲𝓼𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓻𝓭𝓼, 𝓓𝔃𝓪𝓲𝓻 𝓣𝓾𝓫𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓵𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓲𝓷𝓷𝓸𝓿𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷, 𝓲𝓷𝓯𝓵𝓾𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓮, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓶𝓹𝓪𝓬𝓽.

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